4 Habits of Emotionally Strong People
Emotional intelligence is the #1 Predictor for Success.
Emotional Strength isn’t about getting rid of difficult feelings – it means you know how to respond to them in a healthy way.
1. Control your attention, not your emotions
Emotions aren’t under our direct control.
When you try to control things you don’t have control over – like your feelings – you’ll only create more pain and suffering for yourself in the long run.
If you want to be more emotionally strong, validate your emotions and control your attention.
Crying does not indicate that you are weak. Since birth, it has always been a sign that you are alive. -- Charlotte Brontë
2. Practice compassionate self-talk
When you respond to painful emotions with negative self-talk, you train your brain to be ashamed of feeling bad.
True emotional strength comes from gentleness, not criticism.
Words matter. And the words that matter most are the ones you say to yourself -- David Taylor-Klaus
Motivation often comes after starting, not before. Action produces momentum.
-- James Clear
3. Use values, not feelings, to make decisions.
Your emotions will lead you astray just as often as they will guide you.
Listen to all your emotions but don’t blindly take orders from them.
4. Set (and enforce) healthy boundaries
It’s hard to set and enforce healthy boundaries….
Just because it feels bad doesn’t mean it is bad.
If you want to become more emotionally strong, practice communicating your wants and needs assertively and having the courage to set (and enforce) healthy boundaries.
"No" is a complete sentence. -- Annie Lamott
If you want to become emotionally strong, work to build these 4 habits: Control your attention, not your emotions and practice compassionate self-talk. Use values, not feelings, to make decision and Set (and enforce) healthy boundaries.